Muslim beauty queen faces abuse from all sides, she says

April 15th, 2011
by Sufia

Manchester, England (CNN) – Shanna Bukhari gets some pretty nasty messages through Facebook, she says. They call her a “dirty Muslim.” They say England is a “white nationality country” and she shouldn’t be allowed to represent it.

But that’s just what she hopes to do at the Miss Universe beauty contest this year. If the Manchester, England-based fashion model wins the British contest next month, Bukhari will become the first Muslim to represent Britain at the international contest.

The idea isn’t going down well with everyone – Bukhari says she has gotten hate mail from across the board.

“I’ve had racists, I’ve had a minority from Muslim community, I’ve had it from all religions and all communities that dislike what I’m doing,” she said.

The most upsetting messages, she said, are video links suggesting she should be murdered.

Since she started getting threats, she has made a point of never being alone, and a private security firm guards her when she appears at charity events, she said.

Some of the abuse she gets is based on a misunderstanding, she said.

“I am not representing Islam and I am not the one that brought my religion into this,” Bukhari said. “The minority out there should not use my religion to attack me.”

She’s not planning to wear a bikini, she said, explaining that her swimsuit will be a one-piece topped with a sarong.

“I don’t think I would be comfortable wearing a bikini,” she said.

Bukhari says she’s a good Muslim.

“This competition does not define me as a person. It doesn’t make me any less of a Muslim being in a pageant like this,” she said. “Pageants like this are happening in Muslim countries as well.”

And a British woman shouldn’t have to defend herself from the sort of criticism she’s getting from a few Muslims, she argued.

“We live in a Western society and there is a minority out there who is trying to dictate and control others… they need to start accepting England as a whole and treat it as their country.”

One of her critics agrees with her on that point.

“As much as I may oppose the way a certain person dresses, I think it’s important that people should have the right to dress the way they want to dress,” said Mohammed Shafiq, the chief executive of the Ramadhan Foundation, a Manchester-based Muslim youth organization working to build cross-community understanding.

But, although he says Shanna Bukhari may have a right to enter a beauty contest he says she should not.

“Islam is very clear that women should dress in a modest way and guard their modesty, and certainly as a liberal Muslim myself, I do believe that she should do just that.”

He objects to pageants “where women have to be paraded and idolized as sexual objects,” and dismisses the argument that pageant winners do a lot of charity work.

“You can promote peace without having the title Mrs Universe or Mrs UK for that matter,” he said.

Despite his objections to beauty contests, Shafiq says he bears Bukhari no ill will.

“I totally condemn the death threats she may have received and the hate mail she may have received,” he said. “I’ve opposed her but it doesn’t mean I’m full of hatred and I wish her well.”

More people back Shanna Bukhari’s quest to be Miss Universe than oppose it, she said.

“I’ve had so much support from all over, not just the United Kingdom … Hong Kong, China, Pakistan, India, many Muslim countries – it’s way more than the hate that I’ve received,” she said.

On the streets of Manchester, where she lives, not a single person who spoke to CNN objected to what Bukhari was doing.

“Whether you’re Muslim or whatever your religion is, you should be entitled to do what you like. You should be allowed to do it regardless of your religion,” said David Yates.

“Why not?” asked Priya Baghani, who is not Muslim. “In Manchester there are a lot of Muslims, so that might be representative of this community, so why not?”

Several women wearing headscarves declined to answer CNN’s questions about Bukhari.

But one of the world’s best-known Muslim beauty queens is backing her.

Miss USA 2010 Rima Fakih is both the first Arab-American and the first Muslim to win that title. She sought out Bukhari after hearing her story to offer advice and a gift.

“Be fearless, be proud of who you are and no matter what anyone tells you by using religion as a tool against you, don’t let that affect you,” she said.

“I sent Shanna a bracelet just like mine,” Fakih said, jangling a wrist covered with good luck charms, “and I hope it’s going to keep her safe.”

Source: CNN

To learn about Islam, why not ask a Muslim?

April 14th, 2011
by Sufia

Quite refreshing were new hearings led by Sen. Dick Durbin, D-Ill., on protecting the civil rights of American Muslims, especially after a slew of anti-Muslim events within the past year or so.  Those culminated in a House committee’s hearings on the “radicalization of American Muslims” a couple of weeks ago.

As glad as I am about Durbin’s hearings, I have to maintain that the way to gain the best understanding of Muslims in the United States starts not by listening to politicians or pundits, left or right, but by shutting them off.

The media will seek to focus on the most sensational aspects of Muslims, whether by focusing on examples of extreme views among certain Muslims or on examples of extreme discrimination against Muslims. Pundits will do the same. The results are more division, less understanding, more misconceptions and higher ratings for TV and radio.

Politicians will turn the issue into another means of forwarding their agendas and winning votes. The next election will be a good (i.e., dreadful) example of this.

In the midst of this ruckus, the main victim is the truth.

But perhaps the best reason for shutting off pundits and politicians who want to tell us what to think about Muslims is a simple one: We do not need them. We can do without them quite easily.

As individuals, we can develop our own understanding, better than that provided by any of the witnesses at the congressional hearings. The fact is, Muslims make no secret of their beliefs and methodologies. All you need to know about Muslims is just as readily available to you as it is to Muslims themselves. It’s not that hard.

First, find the closest mosques to where you live. I usewww.islamicfinder.com, where I can enter my ZIP code and get a list of local mosques with their addresses and phone numbers.

Second, visit a few of these mosques. My recommendation is to go on a Friday either at noon or 1 p.m. (you may want to call ahead to check when the Friday sermon begins). That way, you get to hear the weekly sermon for yourself and check out what Muslims are being taught, and you get to ask the imam of the mosque directly if you have any questions.

The atmosphere of the mosque will look and feel different at first, but please pay no attention to your fear of the unknown. You can ask all the questions you want, no matter how “offensive” you may think they are, and I’m sure everyone will be happy to help you. Just lose your apprehension, approach someone and say: “I’d like to ask the imam a few questions.” No dress code or special gestures or sayings are necessary.

Some Mosques, like the one I go to in Dinkytown, have archives of live English audio translations of Arabic sermons; you can request a copy. Some have websites with the Friday sermons available in audio or video. Most mosques will also have literature available for purchase or borrowing.

Also, Muslim texts are readily available online, from the Quran to the Hadith to various writings by traditional and contemporary scholars, all translated into English. Google comes in handy. Just make sure the websites you visit are made by Muslims, since they will be the websites Muslims themselves use to get answers to their questions about Islam.

Which brings me to an important cautionary point. Religion cannot be understood simply by reading texts. It is a way of life, complete and complex with mental and physical components.

If I wanted to form a correct understanding of Christianity only by reading the Bible, for example, I’m sure I’d be easily misled by some of the violent verses within it. The best route to understanding religious texts is with a person who lives them — in this case, a Muslim.

I grew up in the Middle East, where the majority is Muslim. I do not recall a TV or radio show in which a group of Muslim panelists gathered to discuss the Bible in the absence of a Christian scholar or priest. Learning about a religion without asking a knowledgeable, practicing member of that religion is simply not possible.

If you would like to learn about Islam, I wish you luck on your endeavor. I know you will find all the answers you need.

Source:watan

Can’t Wear That? (Telling Muslim Women what not to wear)

April 14th, 2011
by Sufia

France has now officially outlawed the Islamic niqab or burqa in public. French President Sarkozy said in 2009, “The issue of the burqa is not a religious issue, it is a question of freedom and of women’s dignity … The burqa is not a religious sign; it is a sign of the subjugation, of the submission of women. I want to say solemnly that it will not be welcome on our territory.”

This statement by Sarkozy isn’t going to save any Muslim woman’s self-respect or free her from her oppressor by forcing her indoors and out of public life. If a woman is being forced to wear the burqa or niqab by a dictatorial husband or father, the French have just made it more difficult for her to break free from her oppressor. However, most Muslim women choose to wear the niqab of their own free will, and with this ban France has just pushed another segment of their Muslim population further from the mainstream. France outlawed the hijab, or the simple headscarf in public schools and institutions in 2004, and it has forced girls who want an education to either compromise their religious values, or compromise their academic and professional future. Where’s the liberté in that?

A small minority of Muslim women in certain parts of the world wear what is known as the abaya (black cloak) and the niqab (face veil). It is known as a burqa in South and Central Asia and seen most often as the blue full-body veil worn by Afghan women. This form of covering is the manifestation of the strictest interpretation of modesty in Islam. Women who choose this practice consider themselves seriously observant Muslims and believe this form of dress allows them to move about the outside world while protecting their dignity.

People get nervous around these women. I have often heard the refrain, “You need to see a person’s face to judge their character.” I disagree based on my own experience with Muslim women who wear the niqab. I have always known them as highly disciplined, and solid in their faith convictions despite society’s derision. They believe in keeping their physical attributes out of the public conversation by covering. While I don’t subscribe to this strict interpretation of Islamic modesty, I respect the woman who does.

Case in point: I had been corresponding with a young woman in regard to a part-time position on the behalf of one of my clients. The job would include conducting various marketing events within her local Muslim community. Because she lives in another city, I had no chance to meet her until this weekend when I traveled there. Because I am familiar with this city’s Muslim community, I was not surprised to meet her wearing a black abaya and black headscarf. She and I had coffee in a café, and as the interview progressed she proved to be everything her emails and our previous phone conversations led me to believe about her without the benefit of a face-to-face meeting. She is an extremely enthusiastic and professional young woman filled with exciting ideas for marketing my client’s product. Toward the end of the conversation she mentioned that she usually wore the niqab face veil but she decided that she would not don it for our meeting in case I would be uncomfortable. I told her I wouldn’t have been bothered by it in the least. I felt sorry she had come out without her veil on my account — but to be fair, she didn’t know me. While she knew that I’m also a Muslim, she couldn’t be sure I wouldn’t discriminate against her on behalf of my client. After I assured her that her faith practices are her own business, and that my client has great respect for Muslims, she visibly relaxed and we continued our conversation.

Her character, personality and professionalism were evident long before I saw her clothing, or her face. In her American city she happily moves about her neighborhood dressed the way the French have now outlawed. She told me the Muslims are an integral part of her city’s greater community, and she is very comfortable wherever she goes in her graceful, black garments. I will recommend that my client hire this young woman; I’m completely confident that she is going to far exceed the expectations we had for this position.

As I’ve written before, if you strip a woman of what she feels is her dignity, you’ll have a lot of indignant women. We all know American women can become pretty indignant if someone tells us what not to wear.

First published in HuffingtonPost.com.

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Quran much more than a holy book to Muslims

April 14th, 2011
by Sufia

Two weeks ago, controversial pastor Terry Jones presided over what he called a trial of the Quran.

The holy book of Islam was “found guilty” by members of Jones’ tiny church in Florida and burned, according to a release posted on the church’s website.

On Friday, 12 people, including eight workers for the United Nations, were killed in the Afghan city of Mazar-e Sharif, when people protesting the burning of that Quran attacked a U.N. office.

Jones likely knew that burning the Quran would prompt protests when Muslims learned of the actions of his church, the Dove World Outreach Center in Gainesville. He canceled plans to burn a Quran last year, on the ninth anniversary of the September 11, 2001, terrorist attacks after being lobbied by President Obama, Gen. David Petraeus and others. Petraeus said American service members in Afghanistan would be increasingly in danger if Jones proceeded with his plan.

On March 20, the parishioners at Dove burned a single copy of the Quran, thus “attacking the foundations of Islam itself,” says one Muslim scholar.

“Symbolically and literally this is the most sacred reminder of God on Earth for a Muslim,” said Akbar Ahmed, the chair of Islamic Studies at American University in Washington. ” More than a mosque … more than any other symbol it is the Quran that symbolizes the word of God for a Muslim.”

But he decried the violent reaction to the burning. He said that Muslims need to understand that we are living in a world that includes atheists and people of faith who have different ideas of how to treat any holy book.

“Therefore Muslims need to respond to acts like (Quran burning) by trying to explain why they are so sensitive, by trying to reach out and trying to explain what Islam is, and not to react in anger and promote any hint of violence.”

Omid Safi agrees.

“Above any scripture, what is sacred and holy is the human being,” said Safi, a religion professor at the University of North Carolina and the author of “Memories of Muhammad”. “The death of a person because of protesting (the desecration of) religious symbols is to misunderstand the ultimate sanctity of life.”

Safi pointed out that people in these discussions compare one holy book to another, but the Quran is more analogous to Christ, so it would be like someone burning Jesus.

The reason for that is that Christ was the very being of the word of God, which has come to live among us and the Quran in the same way embodies the word of Allah, he said.

That is why Muslims hold the Quran in such high esteem. In their homes the book is often wrapped in satin and put it in a place of respect, usually high above all other books.

Some of those who don’t live in the United States, where burning a holy book is considered free speech, have a hard time understanding that concept.

“It is the right of the pastor to do this, but to Muslims it is violating their religious identity and their faith,” said Ahmed who is also the author of “Journey into America.” “It’s important to point out that in many Muslim countries it’s in the constitution that you cannot blaspheme against the Prophet or desecrate the Quran.”

Safi called Jones’ actions hate speech intended to divide humanity.

“I’d rather focus my faith and work to bring it together,” he said.

Source: CNN

My Take: Relationships and religious advice

April 14th, 2011
by Sufia

I have been giving a lot of lectures recently — at institutions as different as Duke, Virginia Military Academy and the University of North Alabama — and I have settled into the routine. A bit about my book “Religious Literacy” (Americans are very religious, but know almost nothing about their own religions), a bit about my newest project, “God is Not One” (no, religions are not different paths up the same mountain) and some humor thrown in here and there.

My favorite part of any speaking engagement, however, is the Q& A, which gives me an opportunity to hear what is on the minds of college students, and allows me to freelance a bit — to think on my feet.

In an April 6 talk sponsored by the Center for Interreligious Education at DePaul University in Chicago, DePaul’s Cortelyou Commons — the “Harry Potter” room, as my host David Wellman called it — was packed, thanks to the extra credit offered by many professors and the fact that I had appeared a few nights earlier on “The Colbert Report”.

Usually the questions and answers last only 15 minutes or so, and often they traverse familiar ground. This time, however, the back and forth went on for an hour, and I got a lot of new questions.

The Q&A started with an angry young woman eager to exempt her beloved Confucianism from the horrors of religion. Do I really think Confucianism is a religion? Yes, I do. But Confucius hardly spoke of God or the afterlife. Well, neither do many forms of Buddhism.

I asked her whether she had been to the Temple of Confucius in Qufu, China, where Confucianism’s founder is plainly worshipped as a god. She said yes, but added that Confucius would be disgusted by efforts to turn him into anything other than a sage. The debate ended only when Wellman, an assistant professor of religious studies at DePaul, told us to move on.

Apparently I wasn’t particularly convincing. The next day the woman called me an ignorant “a–hole” on her Twitter feed.

My favorite exchange of the evening came from a young Muslim woman. She told me she was rooming with two Russian Jewish women who had become her friends, but that her grandfather was very upset with the arrangement.

“What should I do?” she pleaded. “It’s a real problem.”

At first, I had no idea. So I stalled by saying I felt like I was on the NPR program “Car Talk,” where the hosts dispense advice about carburetors and timing belts but are really talking about relationships and other human foibles. In between my hemming and hawing, she asked me to explain “this Jewish-Muslim thing” — something I said I doubted I could do in a minute or two.

In the end, what I said was that her grandfather was concerned because he loved her. I then suggested she do some research on “La Convivencia” — a moment in medieval Spain, from 711 to 1492, in which Jews, Christians and Muslims coexisted peaceably, collaborating together in such arenas as mathematics, philosophy and architecture — and share her findings with her grandfather. Perhaps her dorm room could become yet another place of interreligious “coexistence.”

I have often observed that religious traditions intrigue me more for the questions they ask than for the answers they offer. And so it goes for my invited lectures. At least for me, it’s the questions that really get me going.

Source: CNN

Tafseer Surah al-Tahrim, ayah 6: Protecting your family

March 30th, 2011
by Sufia

Allah سبحانه وتعالى says in the Qur’an:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ

“O believers, save yourselves and your family from the Hellfire whose fuel is men and stones”

Whenever Allah سبحانه وتعالى begins anything with the phrase ‘O believers!’, it means He is alerting our attention to something important for us to do or to avoid. Ibn Mas`ud (ra) says:

وقال ابن مسعود: إذا قال اللَّه يا أيها الذين آمنوا فارعها سمعك فإنه خير تؤمر به أو شر تنهى عنه

“Ibn Mas`ud said: whenever Allah says ‘O believers’ then raise your hearing because it is a good you are being commanded to or a bad you are being told to avoid…”[1]

The meaning of “save yourselves and your family from the fire” means turn them away from it, prevent them from it. Sayyiduna `Ali (ra) in his commentary of this verse as well as Qatada and Mujahid state:

“Save yourselves from the Fire through your actions and save your family from the Fire through giving them all correct advice and guidance (bi-wasiyyatikum) [...] and there are three meanings to the phrase ‘and save your family from the Fire through giving them all correct advice and guidance’ and they are:

1. To command them to obey Allah and to avoid disobeying him. This is what Qatada said.

2. To teach them all the obligatory aspects of their religion as well as to train them with the correct manners and conduct in their lives. This is what `Ali said.

3. To on the one hand teach them the khayr (‘the good’) and to ensure they are made to live with it and to clarify what is wrong and bad so as to ensure they avoid it…”[2]

Lessons

In this noble verse of the Qur’an, Allah is commanding the Muslim believers to take serious consideration in safeguarding themselves and their family from the Hellfire.

To safeguard and protect the family means to ensure they live by the commandments of Allah and to avoid his prohibitions.

All fathers and providers of the household have a duty to their family that involves teaching them the obligatory aspects of their religion which is the fiqh (Islamic rulings) on all daily actions. We must not fall short in this or neglect this. How can it be that we are aware of our duty to learn Islamic rulings and prevent our wives from learning it as well? How can our children learn the teachings of Islam unless their parents instill it in them?

The need to train, nurture and teach Islamic values, norms and principles to our family is all the more serious given the context of the widespread assault on Islam, Shari`ah and Muslim family values as being antithetical to anything British, Western and liberal.

Notes

1. Imam al-Mawardi, al-Nukat wa’l-`Uyun
2. Imam al-Mawardi, al-Nukat wa’l-`Uyun

Source: khilafah

Allah سبحانه وتعالى says in the Qur’an:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا قُوا أَنْفُسَكُمْ وَأَهْلِيكُمْ نَارًا وَقُودُهَا النَّاسُ وَالْحِجَارَةُ

“O believers, save yourselves and your family from the Hellfire whose fuel is men and stones”

Whenever Allah سبحانه وتعالى begins anything with the phrase ‘O believers!’, it means He is alerting our attention to something important for us to do or to avoid. Ibn Mas`ud (ra) says:

وقال ابن مسعود: إذا قال اللَّه يا أيها الذين آمنوا فارعها سمعك فإنه خير تؤمر به أو شر تنهى عنه

“Ibn Mas`ud said: whenever Allah says ‘O believers’ then raise your hearing because it is a good you are being commanded to or a bad you are being told to avoid…”[1]

The meaning of “save yourselves and your family from the fire” means turn them away from it, prevent them from it. Sayyiduna `Ali (ra) in his commentary of this verse as well as Qatada and Mujahid state:

“Save yourselves from the Fire through your actions and save your family from the Fire through giving them all correct advice and guidance (bi-wasiyyatikum) [...] and there are three meanings to the phrase ‘and save your family from the Fire through giving them all correct advice and guidance’ and they are:

1. To command them to obey Allah and to avoid disobeying him. This is what Qatada said.

2. To teach them all the obligatory aspects of their religion as well as to train them with the correct manners and conduct in their lives. This is what `Ali said.

3. To on the one hand teach them the khayr (‘the good’) and to ensure they are made to live with it and to clarify what is wrong and bad so as to ensure they avoid it…”[2]

Lessons

In this noble verse of the Qur’an, Allah is commanding the Muslim believers to take serious consideration in safeguarding themselves and their family from the Hellfire.

To safeguard and protect the family means to ensure they live by the commandments of Allah and to avoid his prohibitions.

All fathers and providers of the household have a duty to their family that involves teaching them the obligatory aspects of their religion which is the fiqh (Islamic rulings) on all daily actions. We must not fall short in this or neglect this. How can it be that we are aware of our duty to learn Islamic rulings and prevent our wives from learning it as well? How can our children learn the teachings of Islam unless their parents instill it in them?

The need to train, nurture and teach Islamic values, norms and principles to our family is all the more serious given the context of the widespread assault on Islam, Shari`ah and Muslim family values as being antithetical to anything British, Western and liberal.

Notes

1. Imam al-Mawardi, al-Nukat wa’l-`Uyun
2. Imam al-Mawardi, al-Nukat wa’l-`Uyunkhilafah