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Chastity and morality are one of the major bases of Islamic religion which aims at building and maintaining a solid society that venerates modesty, purity, good manners and morals. Thus Muslims are expected to live under austere and strict code of conduct regarding relationships between the two different sexes. No relation of any kind between those who are not married is allowed especially those that make them experience any form of sexual sensations. This is so seriously observed that any one guilty of the offence is liable for a death punishment. Many young people in the modern western world find cyber sex a safe physical way of experimenting with sexual fantasies and desires, without the danger or risk of STIs and AIDS. For the Muslim world, it is totally different and is held as illicit sexual intercourse that is Zina. Those who engage in it have to hide their identities so as to satisfy their sexual desires without being caught.

They risk the wrath of the relatives of the female partner if caught. These relatives would certainly even kill the two cyber love making partners if that is what it takes to defend the girl’s family honor. For married chat room sex participants it is even worst as the act amounts to adultery, in the eye of Islamic faith. Virtually all Islamic scholars agree unanimously that cyber lovemaking is zina in fullness and some people have divorced their partners on the same account, by accusing them of infidelity on this account. According to Shari’ah zina is any form of illicit sexual intercourse ranging from pre-marital sex, phone sex, homosexuality and extra marital sex. They are viewed as ‘Kabirah’ that is, a major sin and is totally not tolerated in Islamic faith.

Anything that may lead to zina is forbidden even if it is not the actually illicit sexual intercourse. To sum it all, ‘The hands commit zina, the eyes commit zina , the genitals commit zina and the feet also commit zina’ .Muslims should therefore, at all cost shun avenues of zina as Allah in the Quran Prohibits all forms of zina and even coming close to zina. Allah Subhana Wa Tallah says in Al-Isra’:32 ‘Do not even come close to zina. It is a shameful deed and an evil way.’

Many innocent girls have had lost their respect, confidence and in extreme cases their lives in result of being caught on webcam and their live recordings on numerous sites and uploaded videos at YouTube by ill minded so called lovers of them. Later it revealed these so called virtual lovers had all the sick intentions to blackmail the innocent girls and then lead them towards taking off their clothes and do shameful acts in front of the cam in the name of online or cyber love. It starts with a very harmless chat and ends in a very bad manner but can leave deep scars on the souls of victims.

Islam views marriage from a legal point of view as a contract. The marriage contract in Islam requires free and full consent of the two parties concerned just like any other contract. The final decision to enter into a valid marriage contract solely rests on the two parties though guardians or parents may choose a partner for marriage, use persuasion leading to marriage or give their advice. The marriage contract is a life long or long term commitment and only under extreme circumstances can in it be terminated. The terms usually involve a gift from the husband given to the intended wife, and secondly, a commitment from the two to try their best to provide psychological, emotional and spiritual happiness. Therefore, the only relationship allowed is a long-term commitment in the form of marriage. Dating is totally prohibited in Islam and is viewed as haraam. Haraam means something that has been forbidden by Allah Subhana Wa Tallah under all or any circumstances and doing any haraam act makes one responsible of answering to Allah Subhana Wa Tallah on the Day of Judgment. Anything that goes against the will of Allah Subhana Wa Tallah is haraam and displeases Him Subhana Wa Tallah.

Dating is basically getting to know well each other. In the contemporary love dating however entails intimate relationships with acts of kissing, touching, necking, petting and many more. One can say that Islam, being a religion based on love and humanity could be so strict when it comes to the relationship between man and woman. To a few of the members of society this may seem to be bit unfair but those who are aware of the risks, endangerment and life threatening results of dating, this is the best solution. Following rules of your Creator can never be wrong.

These acts ultimately lead to pre marital sex with is zina or adultery and prohibited in Islamic faith or philosophy. Technological advancement has furthered dating to web premises otherwise known as online dating. People get to meet and flirt online in various social media and online dating sites. Therefore, dating, be it physically or online is denied on the premise, that it inevitably normally leads to a type of Zina. Though for long term commitment in form of marriage it is allowed for couples or partners to meet in group or chaperoned environment, as Islam recognizes the need of the two partners entering into it willingly, based on family involvement, careful investigation and above all prayers. This is retaliated in Qur’an 2:235 “You commit no sin by announcing your engagement to the women, or keeping it secret. God knows that you will think about them. Do not meet them secretly, unless you have something righteous to discuss. Do not consummate the marriage until their interim is fulfilled. You should know that God knows your innermost thoughts, and observe Him. You should know that God is forgiver, clement.”